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12 Lessons I learnt this year.

The year is almost ending in a few days, and I learned many lessons on the way. It might be difficult to sum them up to a certain number, but it was a year of many lectures and tears.

I cried as much as I smiled. I wailed as much as I blazed. It was a good and a bad year, in which sometimes I thought I would not make it. I cannot believe I made it this far.

I’ve had good moments, great experiences, and triumphs here and there. And I am most grateful for all that I achieved.

The pandemic had not made it easy, but I am glad I got to navigate through that and still came out a champion. Below I stated 12 lessons I learned this year, and I hope they resonate with you. Scroll down with me and be inspired.

Life is too short

As most of you know, I lost my brother-in-law in August this year due to covid. It was a difficult phase to pass through as a family. And I realized that life is too short. You would be alive now, and the next moment you are gone. I began to do introspection about myself. To figure out what I wanted to do before I departed here on earth and pursue that fully.

Not everything that glitters is gold

This is a famous proverb used to describe that people are not who they say they are. I learned this lesson the hard way.

Do not judge a book by its cover

I emphasized this one on a full post here, and I would like to repeat it. Judging people based solely on their outward appearance is not good. There’s more to people more than what is on the surface.

Solo dates are refreshing

Ever since we went back to eating out, I’ve had a lot of solo dates. I would talk myself out for lunch. It felt good and refreshing. And that is one thing which I’m looking forward to doing next year.

Have meaningful friendships.

I’ve experienced the significance of having meaningful friendships. There were times where I felt low and worthless, but my friends showed me love most amazingly. I never treasured friendships more than I did at my lowest.

Blogging is not easy.

I started too well in my blogging journey. The stats had escalated, and I thought I had everything under control until I hit rock bottom and was no longer consistent. I lost my sense of self and sidelined my blog. I had to recoup myself and understand that it takes a lot of hard work to be a consistent blogger. I’m yet to get there.

Not everything is about money

The pandemic taught us to cherish our loved ones and to appreciate everything we have. And not to base our happiness and joy on money. Not everything is about money. Enjoy the present moments with loved ones, and you’ll be happier.

Depression is real

I had to include this one because it hit me so hard when I was unemployed. Some of us go through depression, and we are not even aware until we pass through it or someone points it out. It was a tough experience that I never thought I would ever experience.

Love is beautiful

The most beautiful thing about love is what it makes you feel inside. I’m not only talking about an intimate love relationship but any love you can get from your loved ones and friends. This kind of love cannot be bought at any price. Cherish your circle and experience genuine love.

Different hairstyles are goals

I tried different hairstyles this year, and each one made me feel good about myself. Some of the trials made me look funny, like when I cut my hair, but I enjoyed every moment.

It’s possible to have multiple streams of income.

I had a hectic schedule this year. I started as an employee, then unemployed, to working four jobs at a go. (Three-part times). I cannot wait to see what happens next year. I’ll probably tone it down to focus on my business.

Shopping is therapeutic.

Towards the last month of this year, I spent most of the time shopping. I bought a lot of things for myself, and I do not feel guilty at all. I, for the first time, felt so proud of myself. I have not spoiled myself in a long time. It was therapy after such a sigh year we had.

The year is almost over, and I’m looking forward to seeing what 2022 has in store. I feel like a lot awaits of us. We simply have to be present and focused. We will be able to achieve anything we want to achieve. Allow yourself to see lessons on everything. Every day is another day to learn, discover and acquire. Be alert to your surroundings and learn.

Let’s meet again tomorrow.
What are the lessons you learnt this year?

If you have not read my previous posts, please do so.

From a heart to yours.

This Post Has 28 Comments

  1. Evidence Mutumbu

    My condolences to the loss of your bother in-law.
    May the HolySpirit continue to comfort you!

    1. Lebogang Shazzygal Malatji

      Much appreciated. It’s still an open wound but I’m getting by everyday my the grace of God. I appreciate you mate. Thank you so much🙏🙏🙏🙏

        1. Lebogang Shazzygal Malatji


  2. Evidence Mutumbu

    Yes all that glitters is not gold.
    Belive God for a discerning heart.
    Especially as we transition to next year

    1. Lebogang Shazzygal Malatji

      Absolutely agreed mate. I think its a lesson in willing to take with in the next year. I do not want to be be deceived by everything that glitters. Thank you so much.

        1. Lebogang Shazzygal Malatji


    1. Lebogang Shazzygal Malatji

      Ohhh mate….I was not consistent 🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈. Ahhh I thought I’ll make it through, but i was quite busy. I felt so guilty though.

    1. Lebogang Shazzygal Malatji

      Try it out and you’ll see how that will work for you. As you do that, don’t forget to tag along with your wife, I’m sure she’ll enjoy more than you will😂😂😂

      1. Evidence Mutumbu

        Hahaha obviously she was in my mind when i commended.
        I love doing shopping with her.You know we draw our joy from making our spouses happy😀😀😀

        1. Lebogang Shazzygal Malatji

          Wuuuuuuu i love that. I’m glad you find joy in making her happy. She’s one lucky spouse. I envy her😅😅.

  3. Happy Panda

    Learnt all the same lessons. <3
    Life is far far too short and we should totally live in the moment.
    Blogging is definitely not easy – this year started off so well only for me to lose consistency and see A HUGE drop in my stats. *SIGH*
    Solo dates and time by yourself is so important. It is so important to say the right things to yourself, every single day.
    I've also learnt to be patient with myself and that it is okay to be on my own journey. Life isn't a competition and I will get where I have to at my own pace. 🙂
    Looking forward to a better, happier 2022 for both of us. <3

    1. Lebogang Shazzygal Malatji

      I know right?
      I think the past two years taught us to live life to the fullest. With the rate at which we lost our loved ones, we realized that it could be us at any time.
      We learnt a lot about blogging friend. And of course consistency is one of the primal pointers of a successful blog. I believe 2022 will be a great year for us. I’m planning to be more consistent and also to take short courses for blogging. I love you sissy and I wish you more successes because I believe in you and your business.

  4. Beaton

    Blogging is never easy… Its kinda like life, sometimes you think you have it all figured out and from nowhere you cant explain how you got yourself to where you are. And just like trying out different hairsyles styles one should try out different things with their blog, be it changing colours or writing something you wouldnt normally do, and most of all to have fun because what is the purpose of lifem blogging and everything else if we cannot find joy in being ?

    Compliments of the festive season

    1. Lebogang Shazzygal Malatji

      I will incorporate the advice uncleB
      Thank you so much. I will try out different things and see how that pens out to be. One of the reasons I neglected my blog was that, it was no longer fun. It felt like a job and I had to recouo to get the fin back so that I can enjoy. Thank you so much UncleB

  5. Shelly DS

    Very interesting lessons 😊
    I can’t believe you are doing FOUR JOBS?! How do you even get up in the morning? But you know what? That’s resilience right there. You are inspirational because no matter what came your way, you made it work.
    Merry Christmas sis!

    1. Lebogang Shazzygal Malatji

      Thank you so much sissy
      Unemployment opened my eyes. I never wanted to go back to poverty and not knowing where the next meal will come from, how ill pay certain bills or not able to buy myself anything. It was not easy. From then on I worked different jobs which some of them was not paying that we’ll but I remained focused until I got a full time job. Though I still worked the other jobs. It’s been an incredible journey

  6. InnocentW

    Very insightful post, I definitely resonate with all the lessons. The most important one for me has been having meaningful friendship. Especially when you can’t see them in person because of lockdowns. I’m grateful for those I’ve grown with throughout the year. Also blogging is not easy is an essential one for me, I’ve always taken breaks when I needed to. But this year I found myself taking more breaks and just not feeling like blogging anymore.

    1. Lebogang Shazzygal Malatji

      I know we always encounter fake friends now and then, but to have genuine friends is amazing. And it’s good to evolve together and support each other.
      Blogging is not an easy friend. It takes. a lot to be a consistent blogger. Most of the time, that’s all it takes – consistency. Next year, being intentional with consistency. Thank you so much for passing through

  7. wendaswindowcom

    Wonderful words that come out of such a sweetheart. I love you Shazzy!

    1. Lebogang Shazzygal Malatji

      I think I should write another one as an apology to self. With this one I wanted to be gentle and thoughtful.
      I love you so much
      Much appreciated

      1. wendaswindowcom

        So much of what you said to me sounded like the Holy Spirit praying through you. I think He is still not finished. He is so gentle and thoughtful. I think you will figure it out and we will all be blessed again.

        1. Lebogang Shazzygal Malatji

          Absolutely agreed
          Thank you so much for your continuous support

  8. conniedia

    I probably need a whole post on what i learned because yoh….

    Sorry again about your Brother in law.
    Thank you for sharing.
    About hairstyles I hear you girl I hear you.

    1. Lebogang Shazzygal Malatji

      I think you’ll make a good review of why you learnt this year. Ive learnt a lot from you and I believe someone out there will benefit more from your lessons.
      It has not been easy. Each day is a reminder that life is too short.

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